VAAL, SA – Hi there, my name is Thembekile Ntsele, today I want to share with you something that changed my life. We read about loving yourself everywhere in the internet and books, so it’s important that we actually put self-love into action. Even though it’s not that simple.
I remember how I used to look down on myself and had low self-esteem. Trust me, I found it hard to even stand in front of my classmates, just to make a speech. The only thing that made sense to me in those days was going home so that I can be away from people. Because I didn’t see any good in me, I thought it’s what people think of me as well.
Self-love is a Lifestyle
I never used to appreciate my ideas, let alone share them with anyone. My peers teased me for how walk and I didn’t appreciate my ability to walk. I looked different to everyone else and didn’t fit in because my hair was ginger and fluffy, not black and thick like “normal” African hair.
Time went on and I met people who didn’t appreciate themselves either. Even though they looked their best, yet are unknowingly empty, they see nothing amazing about themselves.
I agree that a person can’t have it all. However, if there’s one thing that was missing in most people is self-love and self-acceptance. I thought I needed to relocate to another country to gain that, crazy I know.
When I started realizing that I am actually lovable, sweet and beautiful; I told myself that there’s only one Thembekile and there’ll never another one. The world needs me to be confident.
No, let me put it this way; the world is hungry to see the real me and in order to do that, I first need to love myself and be confident. Life became easier because I saw myself as a precious being. I didn’t say my life is perfect, just to be clear. That’s not what self-love is about.
When you start tackling every area of your insecurities, you begin to gain confidence and self-love. Now that I understand this, I love myself. It began with me. I can freely say and believe that I am intelligent, beautiful, blessed and talented. I am Thembekile Ntsele and I love myself. Try it, put yourself first and love yourself! It feels really good.