INTRODUCING HIS GRIT MAGAZINE – It was a day in July, I was enjoying a night of beer and cheering as my friends and I were gathered in front of the TV watching the FIFA World Cup final match. My heart was pumping with adrenaline, I was drenched in sweat, clenching my fists as we were closing in on the final whistle call, cheering along with everyone for no particular team! It’s the love of the game that gets me, it fills me with passion to the brim of my body and when that final whistle was blown, I felt an explosion take place inside of me.
Emotional Men Are Just as Manly
My name is Stephen Brown, I’m 35 years old, and a man of my age has to run to the toilet to hide his tears of joy.
The situation would have differed had I been cheering for my national team, but it was just a game between Croatia and France that I was leisurely enjoying, that so happened to be powerful enough to make me cry.
This is where I admit to you—with pride and shame—that I am an emotional man. I cry when Football championships end, I cry when I see a dying dog in a movie, I cry when I watch the news, I cry in my own privacy at home, and I run off to the toilet to cry if I am surrounded by others.
It is both a blessing and a curse, I would say, to live as a sensitive man whose emotions are easily stirred. I do acknowledge that I am probably more compassionate and empathetic than others, some good I have managed to find in myself that I take pride in. Being sensitive means that I understand other’s struggles, I sympathize with those in need and in pain, I share the joy of those who are happy, and I consider that a privilege because it makes me more human and it helps me grow deeper connections with others. I am also proud to say that my sensitivity has been very kind to my relationships with women, I’ve managed to build strong romantic relationships because of the intimacy I am keen on developing with my partner.
Stereotypes against Sensitive Men
However, this sensitivity is only accepted behind closed doors. I cannot show it to my male best friend, I cannot show it in front of my father. It makes you appear weak. No matter how untrue that stereotype is, weakness is a trait that no man wants to carry. I would normally blame this on how society has developed a constructed model for men, how a man can have a body as Dwayne Johnson’s and the morals of a true gentleman, but his emotional expression needs to be suppressed or else it will cause a glitch in his manhood.
The conversation happening in today’s global society against Toxic Masculinity is one that I advocate as a man who is obliged to hide away a genuine part of himself just to avoid accusations of being weak and low self-esteemed. I accept that I am a sensitive and emotional man, and I have slowly been trying to accept it in public; because it does not make me weak. If anything, I feel my strong emotions make me, in essence, a stronger man.